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The Single Life

In Uncategorized on December 15, 2010 at 10:30 am
 written by Sway

Is this book your new best friend?/

 From age 18 all throughout the early twenties being single was the way to be. You could date around, club it up, taste all 31 flavors, and live it up without any qualms, attachments, or obligations. But once the mid-twenties hit, I’ve noticed the trend amongst my peers is that being booed up is the new black of the season.

And it’s understandable. The mid-twenties is usually the time where people look to settle down in long term relationships,  and get married. But guess what? If you are in your mid twenties or older, and are the only single person amongst your friends, don’t get discouraged.

Whether you are single or attached,  there are trade offs in both sitautions. But don’t look at being single as the end all be all. There are so many positives to having the single status that you can benefit from, such as:

No obligations- You don’t have answer to anyone. You can come home at 3 am from a night of clubbing it up without any reservations. You don’t have to worry about calling someone to let them know where you are going and have no one else’s feelings to consider when it comes to your actions. You can do what you want, when you want, all on your own terms.

Don't you have a busy schedule!

Having a full roster- Being single allows you to meet and hang out with alot of people from the opposite gender. Whether these new people become friends or people you date, hanging out with people of the opposite gender brings a certain balance to your friendship circle.  And having a full roster of potential daters means that you have options which brings the spice of variety to life.

No worrying about relationship drama- Being single allows you to have a bit more control your life when it comes to drama. You don’t have to worry about certain perils that have been known to toxify everyday relationships like lack of communication, arguments, infidelity, long distance, insecurity, jealousy, dishonesty, etc. If you are truly single and just playing the field, then you are having a good time and most likely don’t have the time or the patience for drama. And if someone your dating brings the drama? Then it’s ten times easier to let them go and keep it moving.

Still having time- You may think your biological clock is ticking faster. Maybe you envisioned yourself being married and having kids all by age 28 and it hasn’t happened yet.  Guess what?  You still have time. Take some of that pressure off of yourself. Yes, it may seem like the dating pool is smaller because of all your friends being attached. BUT know that there are several people out there that are still single like you. You can use this time to get yourself together (whether it’s your personal life or career) so that when you do meet that special person, you will be an accomplished and complete individual.

Having fun-  You are single! You are flyy! Have as much fun as you want, while being responsible of course! You can travel the world and cross some things of your “‘Things to Do Before I Die” list (if you don’t have one create one). This is your time to learn about yourself and to also learn your wants and needs when it comes to the opposite gender. You can still go out with your boys or your girlfriends and live it up like you used to when you were younger (they just can’t…lol). And when the time is right, you will meet the person you are supposed to be with. Just do YOU 🙂



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