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Sway’s First Date Do’s and Don’ts for Guys

In Courting, First Date on October 13, 2010 at 11:45 am
 written by Sway

I get it guys, you have a lot of pressure when it comes to the first date. First you have to ask the girl out, then hope she says yes, and then plan a night so fun-filled that she’ll anticipate another.

That’s a lot going on right there.

To take a little pressure off of you guys, remember that the first date is not about just doing something or going somewhere to impress a girl and make her like you more. It’s your time to get better acquainted with someone you are attracted to and also decide if you’d like to continue getting to know her. But at the end of the day, you do want to put your best foot forward.  So with that in mind, I’ve taken the liberty of compiling a list of Do’s and Don’ts when it comes to a first date (or any date for that matter).


Don’t be late.

Don’t just take a girl to a movie. How do you expect to get to know her after 2 hours of watching a screen?

Don’t order her dinner for her unless she insists.

Don’t be overly affectionate. You’re going to scare the girl. If you are like that on the first date, how would she expect you to be on the third or fourth?

Don’t talk about your exes, or anything negative (like all your struggles you went through after your parents’ divorce when you were younger). Keep the conversation light enough so that you enjoy it. But not so light that you aren’t getting to know one another. Find a happy medium.

Don’t ask about her exes.

Don’t have a dirty mouth!

Don’t kiss your date unless the timing is right.

Don’t try to get her drunk.

Don’t get drunk yourself. That’s not only sloppy, but a horrible first impression.

Don’t dress inappropriately. If you tell your date to dress semi formal that means you do the same. Word to the wise: wearing Adidas trainers with a button up shirt and slacks is NOT semi-formal.

Don’t answer calls and continuously text while on the date. It’s one of the most inconsiderate things you can do. If you have to pick up a call, excuse yourself to handle the call and come back in a timely matter.

Don’t pressure your date to do anything she isn’t comfortable doing.

Don’t stare at other girls while you’re with your date. If you every girl that walks by catches your attention that quickly then you shouldn’t even be on a date…obviously!

Don’t try too hard. Just be yourself!



Do be chivalrous. This means walk on the outside of the sidewalk, open the car door, help her put her jacket on, etc.

Do pay for the bill unless you and your date have already decided to go dutch.

Do bring flowers for the simple fact that it’s a nice, inexpensive, thoughtful gesture.

Do get an idea of what she likes to eat/do before the date. You don’t want to end up taking a vegan to a steakhouse.

Do plan something different from the run of the mill type of date. It shows that you can think outside the box (us girls love creativity).

Do compliment your date.

Do tell your date how she should dress before the date: like casual, semi-formal, etc. If you want to keep what your doing on the date a surprise, at least give her an idea of what to bring or wear. (Ex: if you chose to go ice skating, telling her to wear jeans would be ideal)

Do actively listen to her, pay attention, ask questions, and be engaged.

Do put on a couple of spritz’s of your favorite cologne before the date. Keep in mind, you don’t want to smell like you took a bath in your scent.

Do call her after the date (at least the next day or day after) to set up plans for another date if you want to see her again.

Do have fun, laugh, and be personable and all should go well.  😉

Note: If there are some important Do’s and Don’ts I’ve missed, feel free to post them in the comment section!


  1. XD Loved this! Hopefully the men take the advice. 😛

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