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Just Stop It!! – Over Invested, Emotionally

In Emotions on July 19, 2010 at 4:57 pm

You met him on the train. Tall, charismatic and good-looking. He chatted you up, got your phone number and walks away, leaving you with butterflies in your stomach.

You see her at Starbucks. She’s gorgeous, has a ridiculous smile and likes all your favorite music. She gives you her email address and leaves you in a daze.

He never calls and she never responds. You wonder what did I do wrong. What could I have done differently? You spend all day weighing the what-ifs and why-nots.

STOP IT!! Stop over investing your emotions. It’s about reasonable expectations – This isn’t a fairytale. In real life people have jobs and priorities and significant others. The person may just be busy or — take a deep breath —  uninterested.

Relationships are like banks and meeting someone is like seeing a commercial for that bank. Too many times we think a chance encounter equates to opening up a new account, that gives $50 and a free toaster.

Think about it. When you see an advertisement on television for Capital One, does that make you run out, open a new account and stuff it full of money. Of course not, so stop investing your emotions into every commercial that comes along. Wait for some evidence that the investment is worthwhile.

Meeting someone for the first time shouldn’t warrant that much thought at first. In fact go out and give your number to or get a number from someone else (which ever you prefer). Having options helps to stop you from worrying too much about one particular person. Having options will keep that imagination from running wild.



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