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Don’t Holler at Your Girl

In Attraction, Hate on July 16, 2010 at 4:34 pm
 
 

 This post is catered to the young females who will be going away to college this fall… 

“Ay ma!  Ayyy MA!….Aaaaayyyy MAAAAAA!…come here..”  A “distinguished young gentleman”  hollered at me from a black truck as I was walking by. What did I do? Kept it MOVING!

Some girls may consider it flattering when someone hollers at them. Well guess what? If a guy is shouting out to you, and telling (not asking) you to come over to his truck as he is sitting at a red light, that is NOT my idea of flattery.

*We won’t even discuss my personal favorite “holleration” of someone looking me straight in the eye and calling me out by the wrong color I’m wearing.. ie: They say “Ay girl in the red”  –but I’m wearing pink*

Let’s imagine that for every 15 girls these guys try to holler at, there are 2 to 3 girls that actually stop to listen to their advances. Damn those 2 to 3 girls, because they are the ones that keep the cycle perpetuating. These guys see that they are getting some sort of attention and even if the odds are against them, they probably figure that some attention is better than nothing.

Ladies know your self worth. Do yourself and other females a favor by not entertaining these guys. I do not care if he has a Beemer 6 Series,  a fresh line up, and looks like Idris Elba’s twin.  Seriously ask yourself, is this the way you deserve to be approached? If this guy thinks it’s acceptable to give you this kind of first impression, who knows how he would treat a relationship?

I remember going away to college and getting hollered at more in one day than I did over a few years at home (I really don’t mean to toot my own horn, but I’d like to think of myself as a PYT;-) ).It was so overwhelming at times mainly because I didn’t know how to respond. If I said “hi” and kept it moving, it seemed to create a false sense of hope that a conversation would follow when I knew it wouldn’t. Then the guys would usually get upset just because they thought the “hi” was an invitation to keep coming at me.

If I didn’t say anything at all, that still caused a bit of an issue. Usually guys would yell something smart to at me  and end the sentence with a profanity.

This is where electronics come handy.

Just put your headphones on and listen to music.

Or have your phone out and act like you are on a call…

AND PLEASE MAKE SURE YOUR PHONE IS ON SILENT SO THAT IF A CALL COMES IN, NO ONE WILL HEAR IT, OR ELSE THAT WILL DEFEAT THE PURPOSE OF “ACTING” LIKE YOU ARE ON A CALL….

This all takes preparation so make sure you have everything out before you walk down the street if you feel the holleration coming your way. You can usually spot it ahead of time if you see a group of guys staring your way you before you approach their area. 

Hope this helped a little…

What’s the worst way someone has hollered at you? And how did you handle the situation?

 Sway

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